The other night I was laying in bed with my mind wide awake. For better or worse, I often do a lot of thinking before falling asleep. While I’m often pretty good at keeping myself in check, on this particular night I was thinking about possible what ifs, many of them not the good what ifs if you catch my drift. What if it doesn’t work, what if I really can’t do XX, what if they don’t like me, what if I’m not good enough…
Do you ever find you think about all the reasons something won’t work, before it’s even happened? Many of these reasons are fictional, of course. There are times that doubt and what ifs have convinced me to play small. To downplay my achievements, or convince myself that something (whether it’s in running, professional, or personal life) could never possibly happen. The worst feeling is the regret of knowing you’ve played small for no other reason than your own self doubt.
It’s easy to focus on the failures; one failure can overshadow 100 successes. I read something the other day that talked about the story in your head. You either work with a narrative that supports an abundance of success, or you trap yourself with a limiting story, “I can’t do that because…, I’ll never be good enough because…” All too often we buy into a story that doesn’t positively serve us.
I think we all can use a little reminder to go for it and ask ourselves: why not now? We too often put things off and wait around for some day when we are “ready” (you will never be) and the conditions will be perfect (they will never be). Why not focus on all the reasons why it will work? You are always once decision away from a totally different life.
What are you doing TODAY that will take you closer to achieving your dream?